All posts tagged: people

The Introvert’s Guide to Small Talk

Originally posted on 28 and Counting…:
In case you didn’t pick up on it, I am incredibly introverted. The thought of making small talk with strangers or folks that I don’t know very well fills me with dread. Small talk is an art and I’ve never been particularly interested in art. However, given the nature of my work (read: office culture), I am unfortunately in the situation of having to come up with things to say to random people all.the.time. Since I am working at a new job, the expectation that I will be friendly and bubbly to everyone all day is elevated. I am able to play the role, but as my fellow introverts can appreciate, it is completely exhausting. I have a quota of energy that I have to dedicate to people each day and depleting that precious resource on meaningless, superficial chats about the weather seems very counterproductive. To clarify, I don’t feel this way because I hate people. It’s because I hate forced idle chatter, which has never come naturally to me.…

Suffering Builds Perserverence and Character

Originally posted on Experiences, Thoughts, and Inspiration:
?In the past month, life has had many ups and downs! With the end of the semester as a first year masters student in student affairs quickly approaching there are a lot of assignments and projects to complete. Not to mention a building to run and administrative tasks for my assistantship, and then there is the balance of trying to be a friend, daughter, granddaughter, cousin, niece, and godmother.? Then as if things weren’t crazy enough I had decisions to make about summer as well as my future in student affairs. There were many nights where at the end of the day I felt defeated like I wasn’t going to overcome the slump of the stress and that nothing I did or tried was going to be right! It was in these times that I reached out for help, prayer and assistance from those that I could trust. It was these people that I am greatful for! They have provided me with an ear to listen, have encouraged…

The Struggles Of Being Indecisive

Originally posted on LexiLife:
Hey Peeps! Before I get into this blog post, I just want to let you know that I’ve started to VLOG! I’m finally getting in front of a camera, taking you around with me (including holidays) and putting the voice behind the blog. Let’s hope you like my accent right? Feel free to head on over to my youtube channel where my first vlog is waiting for you. If you liked it, give it a thumbs up and even subscribe?! Who knew I’d be sounding exactly like everyone else on youtube. lol. I am an INCREDIBLY indecisive person most of the time. And it even annoys me. As I said in my previous post, I will not be giving up blogging so why not share some struggles I have daily when trying to make decisions! Let me know if anything sounds familiar… 1.Everything Takes FOREVER A quick shop in Tesco turns into 30 minutes of pure decisions. And that’s just in the reduced aisle. A trip into Superdrug leaves your hand full…

“Holi” Crap

Originally posted on lilrant:
It’s Holi the day after tomorrow. It’s basically this? festival where people play with colored powder and drop water balloons on each others’ heads. Now, I’m secretly terrified of water. I might have been bitten by a rabid dog and never received treatment and gotten stuck with hydrophobia – I don’t know – and people attacking me with water terrifies me. Of course my secret never stayed a secret when I went to med school. During my first year at college, I had a scary arse lesbian roommate who’d have her girlfriend over and do unspeakable things. So basically, I spent a good six months practically homeless? (roomless) – and had no place to hide when Holi happened. And man, was it bad.? Everyone kept acting like weird babbling barnacles and screaming and throwing EGGS at each other. I’d thought you were only supposed to play with water. And powder. But no. There were eggs in the picture.? Rotten, smelly, putrid eggs. My friends and I were the youngest and obviously…

Marriage Has Changed My Life

Originally posted on Writings By Ender:
  A while ago my wife, Jasmin, asked me to help her in the kitchen. I had recently graduated from a demanding year-and-a-half-long language course, so I had time to learn to cook. “Cube the chicken,” she asked. I went to the kitchen counter with a knife and lightly sawed the meat. While cutting my first and only slice of chicken, I felt the hair on the back of my neck rise; my wife was staring at me. “You’re taking so long,” she groaned. It had taken me nearly a minute to separate one strip of chicken. “Here,” she sighed. “Just put a tablespoon of oil on the pan, I’ll do the rest.” And I poured a teaspoon instead.   I’ve been married less than six months and I still have many lessons to learn before I become an adept spouse; I can’t cook and I still grumble when we do chores. But six months wasn’t going to change those things — though given different circumstances I could have learned to…

The Internet Is Making Us Lonely

Originally posted on Rosie Culture:
Likes, favorites, retweets, comments, and all those weird emotion things Facebook just added. We live for instant gratification. It’s not because we’re selfish, it’s because of the Internet. It’s because we not only have to look great in person but we also have to look great online. There is more than one impression to make and you never know when you are going to have to make it. You know when you’re going out to a bar to meet up with all your friends and look for cute guys. But, you never know when someone’s going to request you as a friend on Facebook or follow you on Insta. You could make a great first impression in person, but might totally bomb when your first impression online is break up quotes and pictures of wine. It always looks like everyone else is having so much fun. They add all of their vacation pictures to an album for the world to see. They Instagram the amazing brunch they’re having that Saturday…

OkCupid – The Deep End

Originally posted on Date By Number:
OkCupid analyzes its users’ data and publishes insights in The Deep End. Their recent article takes a look at the changes from 2005 to 2015, with some surprising results, staring with this question: It’s a dramatic drop, but my first reaction was that this could be a reflection of online dating becoming more common, rather than a major shift in sexual behavior. Maybe in 2005, online dating wasn’t as mainstream and OkCupid users tended to be more ‘adventurous’. Now that online dating is more common, the 2015 OkCupid users might include more conservative daters than it did before.  I thought my theory was pretty plausible, until I reached the following question: Any guesses as to why the two questions are trending in the opposite direction? You can find the whole article here. —- For more on OkCupid, see also: Hall of OkStupid #3 at The Lonely Tribalist

Why I Want to Stop Fearing the “offensive” Topics

Originally posted on teenmusing:
Hullo, peoples! (Perhaps today should be a British day. It is quite rainy.) Today’s topic is one I’ve been mulling over for quite a while now, and I’d love to know your opinions on it. Everybody fears things. Fear is an emotion that aims to STOP! us. Being frightened can stop us from doing something hurtful to ourselves or others. Fear can hold us back as well. If we’re so afraid of the risk that we can’t see the good that will come out of it, then fear is detrimental. Sometimes there will be negative consequences, and we have to be prepared for those. But you can’t have a fulfilling life while you’re hiding behind the safety rails. There are rational and irrational fears, and fears that fall somewhere in between. I have all of them, but I can’t let the irrational ones control me. I want to be honest on this blog. In real life, I am very much a chameleon; “who I am” changes with my surroundings. Perhaps that’s not…

It’s Not Because I’m Young

I’m a bleeding heart liberal in the heart of Texas. Typically I try to avoid serious political discussions, but sometimes they find me. Last week, I got much more combative than I normally do. Despite what the other person thinks, politics are not something I’ll “understand when I’m older.” I banter about political stuff with the older teacher next door to me all the time. It’s lighthearted, fun, and we are still friends despite being on polar opposite ends of the spectrum. The other day, another teacher joined in our banter. Within minutes, she had begun insulting me.