All posts filed under: Feminism

Let’s talk about sex…

Originally posted on Dating Documented:
Although I was raised in a family that is about as liberal as it gets, however, I also went to Catholic school for literally my entire life (preeschool, elementary, middle, high and college). As I was growing up, I thought it was important to me to wait until I was married to have sex. I didn’t challenge this idea until getting to college when I tried to figure out why that was something that was important to me. The answer? It wasn’t. It was something that was important to several of my “preachy” friends, and my elementary school teachers. This isn’t to say that sex is something that I take lightly, because it’s not. As a girl, I was taught that sex is morally reprehensible- that it shouldn’t be something that’s done outside of a marriage and if you do you are a slut or a whore. It’s not something that women are allowed to seek out or even enjoy. Then as I got older and went to college I…

What it Means to Be a Woman

Originally posted on corybanticcory:
I used to think I had a pretty good grip on how people work. I used to think I understood what it meant to be a woman. If there’s one thing transitioning has taught me, it’s that I have a lot to learn. This week has been eye opening. I thought I was going to be so excited about my shopping trip or the fact that people are finally starting to think I’m “passable”. I’ve realized that none of that matters. In some of my previous blogs, I was really obsessed with being accepted, “passing”, and I dwelled on some of the more negative aspects of my transition. I’ve learned a few really big things lately. Firstly… It shouldn’t be about “passing”. It isn’t a test. It doesn’t matter whether or not other people think I’m “real”. The fact of the matter is that I am a “real” woman as I am now. Everything that changes from here on out is a part of me. Secondly… There is no end to…

Why we Need Sex Positive Feminism

Originally posted on Is my gender showing?:
Sex positive feminism has been a controversial topic among feminists for a long time, but recently it’s been a particularly dividing issue. Those against sex positive feminism claim that it works for the patriarchy, that by showing our bodies in public and not hiding our sexuality away we are opening ourselves to objectification.We have needs, wants and desires that are not only perfectly natural but beautiful. For those who are interested, understanding, exploring and embracing our sexuality will only serve to empower us and help us to learn things about ourselves, to grow and  accept every aspect of who we are. How are we to fully know or love ourselves if we deny ourselves that power? It is ours, it is one of the few things that truly belongs to us, and only to us. It is who we are- some would even argue it is why we are. Our sexuality is a vital part of who we are at our most natural level, it’s when we are…

Childhood Ponderings: Barbie

I’ve recently encountered quite a few little ladies that have expressed their dislike or their parent’s dislike of Barbie. The reason being, “Barbie sets an unrealistic and poor standard of beauty for young women.” It’s clear that the implication is that by playing with a barbie doll young girls will develop beauty standards that are impossible to live up to and therefore spiral into an adolescence of low self esteem. I don’t know about other women (and men), but I loved barbie. I was able to play with my dolls without analyzing their beauty and applying it to what I was supposed to grow into. Perhaps it’s because I was innocent and sheltered. Or it may have been that I understood the difference between fake and real. Playing with a plastic doll wasn’t something I would compare my human body to. I feel safe saying that I knew it was silly to compare my flesh and blood human body to a doll that was the reflection of someone’s imagination. These two factors (the opinion of young …