All posts filed under: adulting

Lessons I Learned from #BlackLivesMatters

Originally posted on The Uppity Negro:
A Sunday morning Facebook post asked “Is Black Lives Matter still a thing?” and I immediately did an eye-roll. The technical answer is in the affirmative. They still are a thing. I still get emails from them. I also know that in many activist circles that Black Lives Matters functions as a real, almost tangible entity. But, I know that that’s not what the social media post really meant. The post was getting at the sentiment that most people are wondering or have finally stopped caring about: why haven’t we heard from Black Lives Matter the way we did before the election of Donald Trump? I read this post and proceeded to climb up the intellectual mountain from which that question was generated–for whatever reason, when I wake up sometimes my mind brings a piercing alacrity to a thought–and I realized that there was a marked shift in how I personally discussed things and in how I engaged in this subjects in and around Black Lives Matter. In fact, I…

#143 Gaining Weight – ‘Being Productive Is Unhealthy’

Originally posted on Mindfump!:
Facebook | Twitter | Youtube | Instagram | Bloglovin’ Being a slender man* with a fast metabolism I often channel my inner Al Gore and abuse this rather convenient truth and make documentaries eat whatever I like when I like. It wasn’t until I was in my early 20s that I realised that this option was not available for everyone else. My sympathy didn’t run very far but it did make me pause for thought between my 6th and 7th donuts. I just never gain weight. Given the vastly different approaches I’ve taken in my life, from eating junk food daily to training for an Ironman 6 days a week, my weight just never changes. I’ve always had a 5kg range with which my body says ‘yeah this feels fine, think I’ll just stay here’. And it does. Just because I don’t gain weight however does not mean I don’t want to eat healthily, obviously gaining weight is only one of the negatives. If I eat too many donuts for instance I…

Face to Face with New Challenges

Originally posted on MiddleMe:
From time to time, life throws you unexpected surprises and there could only be two reactions: either you cringe /whine /lament on the situation or you relish the challenge the change is going to bring. I often find myself throw at the steep curveball of new challenges where I need to adapt quickly or drown in the situation. Wallowing in misery is never an option because I find it is a waste of time to wallow in something that couldn’t be changed. However, in your hands, you might be able to veer the situation into a balance of win-win. To do that, first of all, keep your attitude in check. Facing a new challenge head on is tough enough but to burden yourself with negativity will make the task impossible. So charge towards the challenge beaming with sunshine and positivity, you may still have difficulty facing the challenge but you’ll feel so much better than letting yourself down with negativity. Hands up and ask for support for things get too tough…

Dear Kathy Griffin…

Originally posted on BeautyBeyondBones:
Being a millennial New Yorker and actor, I’d like to think I’ve got pretty thick skin. Getting rejected is par for the course in the entertainment industry. The city doesn’t do you any favors — just try battling the check out lines at Whole Foods at 3pm on a Sunday.  Heck, even the squirrels seems to have a certain undeniable hutzpah on these streets. Really, nothing quite comes as a shock to me anymore, for better or for worse. However. Earlier this week, opening up my Buzzfeed app to find Kathy Griffin’s infamous photo of her, carrying the bloodied head of a decapitated President Donald Trump…I literally stopped in my tracks. Just. No. And I have a few words. This is not okay. I don’t care how much you hate the President or his policies, that went. too far. It’s no secret that Donald Trump is one of – if not the most – polarizing Presidents in the history of the United States, but propagating his death – especially by deliberate decapitation –…

Do Yourself a Favor and Buy That Damn Plane Ticket Already

Originally posted on infinite satori:
“Travel is never a matter of money but of courage.  I spent a large part of my youth traveling the world as a hippie. And what money did I have then? None. I barely had enough to pay for my fare. But I still consider those to have been the best years of my youth.The great lessons I learned has been precisely those that my journeys had taught me.” -Paulo Coelho I know you. You look through countless of travel blogs, browse through the travel section of the bookstore, read Lonely Planet guidebooks, and National Geographic magazines. You’re in love with city maps, atlases, and globes. You get shivers down your spine when you run your fingers down the tiny blood veins on a map as if it was breathing and coming alive. And it says to you, “Buy a god damn ticket and explore me.” But you don’t, because you look out the window and you’re in the 22nd floor of a building and your sitting in your cubicle with a deadline…

Goals, Passions, and Success: An Interview with My Grandmother

Originally posted on teenmusing:
Praxis personal development project day 3: interview one of your friends. I believe the intention here was to interview another high school student, but I interviewed my grandmother. A) because we are friends and B) she was the most convenient choice at 11:20pm. I asked her about her goals, study habits, passions, and philosophy of success, and then compared them to my own. Karen’s answers: Goals: “Do at least one thing a day from a list. That’s a goal just to trim down my expectations of myself.” Study Habits/Research: “If it’s something that I have to do that I’m not really passionate about I tend to procrastinate. I will get it done, and usually do a good job but it’s last minute. If it’s something that I’m really interested in or something that intrigues me, then I will really dive into things. So maybe not obsessive, I’m just interested so I’ll read a lot and really enjoy what I’m learning.” Passions: “Teaching. I enjoy teaching- kind of in various settings. Children…

I Did Him Wrong. 

Originally posted on lilrant:
I once had the good fortune of dating a guy who was working on a start up for quite a while. Good guy. Great sense of humor, great grammar, great personality. I didn’t understand him, I didn’t.? Not that I didn’t try.? I didn’t know what you’re supposed to say to someone with passion that Michelangelo would have been jealous of. This person would work hours into the night, creating a logo. He didn’t have a functional company, but at least he had the idea, all he wanted to do was start a business, and be his own boss. He had too many ideas I didn’t understand.? We couldn’t have been more different.? He was passionate, and me, lacklustre. Where he was driven and had his own ideas, I was okay with being told what to do. We were chalk and cheese. He wasn’t actively making money, and when he said he was working, I secretly felt weird because he didn’t have an “actual job” or even office space! I was…

Ready for Fall and 10 Strength Training Moves for Runners

Originally posted on thedancingrunner:
8 miles before 7 am with some gorgeous cloud cover. My legs were feeling so good too! I think it had something to do with the awesome cool breeze we’ve been experiencing lately. I’m seriously counting down the days for the arrival of glorious fall. So along with marathon training as most of you know maintaining some sort of strength training regimen is vital. I try to lift weights 2-3 times a week along with my marathon training schedule. Bodyweight exercises for runners are also really helpful. This gets me out on the roads feeling stronger and definitely more powerful. Working different muscle groups and keeping your body shocked for me I think is so important and will help you get further in the long run. (pun intended) Click on the links to get a description of each. (source- Pop Sugar Fitness) 1. Squats – my absolute favorites are goblet squats 2. Walking lunges 3. Shoulder presses 4. Tricep dips 5. Bicep curls 6. Plank/side planks 7. Deadlifts 8. Wall sits 9.…