All posts filed under: self worth

Expectations Suck

Originally posted on Pos+ Casts:
I am a classic people pleaser. I don’t know how it happened or why I do it but I can not help but want to please everyone. I don’t mind it most of the time because I get an immense amount of gratification from it. I like that the people around me are happy. It makes me really happy too. I want everyone to be having a good time so I help facilitate it. I also know how most of my close friends will react to certain situations or what they are sensitive about so I try my hardest to cater to their needs. The problem that most people see with being a people pleaser is that you forget about yourself. Which I sometimes have a habit of doing but I honestly don’t mind. Hell, sometimes I don’t even notice. The major problem that I face or the thing that gets to me the most is when expectations arise. Because I do all of these things for people over and…

What Makes a Woman Confident?

Originally posted on Just another millennial living with her parents:
I feel as though this is a popular topic to discuss. The topic of confidence. I don’t speak to men, when it comes to matters of confidence – Ladies, I’m telling you – They have enough. Men, men, are so flipping confident these days. I tell you, I’ve never met a single male, anywhere, that hasn’t told me what to do. They tell me what I should be doing with my time. Of course, I shouldn’t be wasting so much time, worrying about my student loans – But I do. It’s all I can think about. I go hard, get what’s mine, take what’s mine. I work hard these days, and I must tell you, confess to you, ladies – My confidence is directly related to my money. These days, I feel a lot of pep in my step. I’ve bolstered up my student loan payments, and I feel good. Actually, I feel great. I’ve traded in my butter knife for a tomahawk, and I’m…

The Law’s of Attraction…

Originally posted on Weird and Wonderful:
“You attract what you put out. Be mindful.” All this mindfulness, is making me mindful. Love it. My friend just got back what she gave to me: I was being mindful. As I tried to give her the advice of having a separate account for business and that I would do the same. I felt I was going through a transitional phase. I felt as though the in between awkward times I had when she picked me up – made me think she was going through a tough time also: I was being mindful.? Wow! My moment was an emotional roller coaster but my word I don’t think it is my fault. I have always had to rely on other’s for help and they are getting fed up. Why? Because my family have never been ‘the bloods thicker than water‘ type; they have not made many sacrifices for me or had to try to resolve situations in my life. They just vocalise it. There sometimes has to be a…

Know Yourself, Know Your Worth.

Originally posted on CHASITY S. COOPER:
“Oh Lord – know yourself, know your worth.” – Drake It’s been a minute since I’ve penned a personal post, so here it goes. For the last month or so, I’ve really taken the time to reflect on my worth as an individual, and how I am adequately projecting that image to the world. Being the self-aware individual that I am, I’ve found that re-discovery periods like these have sent me down a rabbit hole, which can sometimes make the process even more difficult. But I’ve learned that being open to the journey and specific about what you want are vital keys to the exploration phase. Speaking from experience, it is uncomfortable, daunting and down right scary to look into the mirror and ask yourself, “Who are you? What’s your purpose? And where in the heck are you going?” If you know me, I am my own worst critic and I tend to put and insane amount of pressure on myself. Especially when you’re uncertain about what is next, it can…