All posts filed under: Modern Dating

The Struggles Of Being Over-Eager

Originally posted on Rosie Culture:
The trouble with people who are over-eager is that we are often over-everything. We are over-thinkers, we are over-dramatic, we over-romanticize, we are overwhelmed. So getting too excited about things just comes with the territory. Because one small possibility opens up so many doors for us. We non stop think about how this could work out in the future or how it could go wrong. The thoughts basically consume us. Over-eagerness in relationships is especially troublesome. In general, I think a lot of people are eager to fall in love. But while those people?are very understanding to why things don’t work out or are calm, cool, and collected on dates – we are freaking out. And it’s not because we fell head over heels in love on the first date – but because we can see all the possibilities. Because we are constantly thinking about the future and, when we meet someone, how they can become part of our future. So we get a little over-eager. We want to send…

How to Deal with Money Personality Differences in Relationships

We are all created differently. Our differences is what helps us grow, change and adapt. By learning from each other, we not only see the importance of relationships, but appreciate others strengths as they help us in building our weaknesses. Your strength may be someone else’s weaknesses and many times we tend to be attracted to people that complement our strengths and weaknesses. Money is no different. Generally speaking, we can categorize people into groups: saver and spender. I hate grouping people, or making generalizations, but in some circumstances like these, it will have to do. Of course not all spenders are bad with managing their money and saving, and not all savers are hoarders of cash and hate to spend. With that being said, I will generalize and conclude that in my household, I am the saver in the relationship and Mr. MMC is the spender. This has its benefits and drawbacks of course. As I learn each day to let go of some coin from time to time (…okay I am not that…

The Ups And Downs Of A Flirtationship

Originally posted on Rosie Culture:
Flirtationship (n) – A social situation that comprises of more than a friendship, but less than a relationship; when you regularly flirt with a friend but do no more. Flirtationships are tricky because they have no definitive lines. At the moment, this relationship is nothing. But could it be something? One person may think participating in a flirtationship could lead to something serious. Another could think that a flirtationship is just a something light and easy with no strings attached. The main aspect of a flirtationship is that nothing physical has occurred. There’s TONS of compliments exchanged, giggles, maybe some hand holding – but any kind of hook up beyond that would be a friends with benefits situation. Which is a whole other can of crazy. The upside of a flirtationship is that you are likely getting the attention you need. It occupies your time and satisfies your need for a little positive interaction. Especially when you’re not ready for a relationship. It barely takes up any of your real…

Dating Shouldn’t Be This Exhausting

Originally posted on Am I Thirty Yet:
I’m tired. I’m tired of the first dates. I’m tired of the same conversations over and over again. I’m tired of making online dating profiles. I’m tired of sorting through dating profiles. I’m tired of waiting for a text back. I’m tired of trying to decode what the text means when I finally receive it. I’m tired of getting my hopes up just to be let down. I’m tired. I don’t know when dating became this exhausting. Before last year I had taken a significant break from dating. I went on a few first dates here and there but hardly ever a second one. I did date one boy for a few months but it never went anywhere. He was a great guy and we got along well. However, it was more of a friendship as I never had any physical or romantic feelings for him. For about two years, I was mostly out of the dating scene. And overall I was happy and carefree. I didn’t have much…

Let’s Talk: Microships

Originally posted on Sublunar Reflections:
Somewhere on the abyss of the Internet I discovered a new word: Microship. As I’ve come to understand it, a microship is a relationship that falls somewhere between friends with benefits and a proper commitment. It’s not just friends with a physical connection; it includes an emotional element too. Just not one that’s necessarily exclusive or fully developed. It’s become common practice for twentysomethings and millennials to invent words for their behaviors. “Sext” wasn’t a word until texting became popularized circa the mid-2000s and “chatting” only came into daily use with the rise of Snapchat in 2011. And all of these new words are, of course, preferable to actually defining a relationship by the old terms. Gone are the days of “going steady” or simply “dating.” Even the definition of “friends with benefits” has gotten a little murky! No, instead of defining our relationships for what they actually are – commitments or lost causes – we invented the word “microship.” I’m a little embarrassed to admit that I’ve found myself…

I wish I was My Ex Boyfriend… Sometimes.

Originally posted on Untrammeled:
“Like a lot of girls I was pretty feisty, I was a tomboy I climbed the trees and I wrestled. And then suddenly, you were supposed to have boyfriends and you had to be a certain way, you had to be popular, and you had to be thin. And you had to be what they wanted you to be. That became a very difficult time in my life. Partly I was suffering from the loss of that wonderful strong brave girl I had been. I was morning the loss of her. And so I slept a lot and didn’t know what to do with myself, I was floundering.”             -Jane Fonda ? ? ? Okay. I’m doing it. I’ve been editing and re-editing my page for close to two hours now all to avoid writing this. ? Part of writing this is making me feel like an asshole. Like what part of me could be so ecstatic that the person who I thought was going to be the love of my…

The Internet Is Making Us Lonely

Originally posted on Rosie Culture:
Likes, favorites, retweets, comments, and all those weird emotion things Facebook just added. We live for instant gratification. It’s not because we’re selfish, it’s because of the Internet. It’s because we not only have to look great in person but we also have to look great online. There is more than one impression to make and you never know when you are going to have to make it. You know when you’re going out to a bar to meet up with all your friends and look for cute guys. But, you never know when someone’s going to request you as a friend on Facebook or follow you on Insta. You could make a great first impression in person, but might totally bomb when your first impression online is break up quotes and pictures of wine. It always looks like everyone else is having so much fun. They add all of their vacation pictures to an album for the world to see. They Instagram the amazing brunch they’re having that Saturday…

Beyond A Physical Relationship

Originally posted on Rosie Culture:
Terms such as “hooking up” and “friends with benefits” are pretty common these days. The hookup culture we live in means less relationships because our time is focused elsewhere. Whether we are career driven, education focused, dream chasing, or just plain selfish. There is a time in our life where relationships just aren’t possible so we avoid the emotional and lean towards the physical. But that time in your life where a relationship isn’t possible doesn’t last forever. There eventually is a time where you are emotionally and physically available. Some start to look for relationships at that time and some choose to veer from them still. There is a time in our lives where we are all ready to settle down, but instead of doing so some choose to stay in the “hooking up” or “friends with benefits” stage. Honestly, the physical thing just gets tiring. As if dating wasn’t hard enough, now you’re not sure if someone just wants to have fun or wants something serious. It’s like you…