All posts filed under: financial security

Would You Date Someone With Debt?

This is a question that many of us don’t think about, or some may think too heavily upon. To some, bringing up the topic of whether or not someone has any debts conjures feelings of shame, denial, and a sense of intrusion into one’s personal space or even resentment. To others it may be a neutral topic. One that is well received without reservation or apprehension. Why do we respond differently to the same question? I have no idea. I am not a psychologists, nor do I study psychology in any great detail but the stark difference in how topics surrounding money are dealt with in relationships, especially debt, has to make you wonder. What are we really afraid off? So maybe the question is not that simple. Maybe this is an impregnated question. Would you date someone with debt? What type of debt is acceptable and what type of debt is not? How much debt is too much debt? Is student loan debt and mortgage debt acceptable, but not credit card or line of…

My Wish for You, My Single Friend…

Originally posted on Midlife Moments:
I have a friend who is newly single. I watched as she navigated her break-up with her significant other. I supported her as she went through the initial stages of grief .. anger .. bargaining .. denial … depression … acceptance. I let her talk … and cry .. and vent … and held her in my heart as the fear … that fathomless fear …. of being alone crashed into her world. She is through the worst of the initial stuff and is settling into her single life. I, as a single woman and a writer, seem to her like a guide that can help her to step into being single and have a full life regardless of whether or not that space in her bed is ever filled again. My friend, I may seem like a guide that does it with grace, but know that everything you feel, I feel. Being single … like being married … is not an easy path. But I’ve come to know that…