Month: September 2015

Hookup Culture as Rape Culture: A Shared Complicity

Originally posted on Millennial:
Thanks largely to the efforts of survivors-turned-activists Annie Clark and Andrea Pino, the founders of End Rape on Campus, sexual assault on campus has moved to the center of public and political debate. Under the Obama Administration, there has been a push to use federal law to hold schools accountable to address the high levels of rape on campus (See, for example, the 2011 “Dear Colleague Letter” from the Department of Education’s Office for Civil Rights). The resulting efforts from universities represent important steps to respond to victimized students, hold perpetrators accountable, and promote campus safety. At the same time, the sexual patterns on college campus that have come to be known as “hookup culture” have come under scrutiny by popular media and academics alike. Generally speaking, this “hookup culture” dominates social life on college campuses, especially for students of privilege. In this environment there is an inversion of previously dominant dating scripts: today physical encounters, ranging from kissing to intercourse, typically occur outside the context of or precede dating and relationships. These…

Walk With Me.

Originally posted on Michelle Leigh Writes:
“I know I messed up,” he says sheepishly. “I’m sure it won’t be the last time,” she says arms folded over her heart. “Why do I keep doing this? I don’t mean to hurt you,” he says frustrated. “Maybe because none of us are perfect. We just float around and try our best, and hope to God we get it right,” she says as she avoids eye contact, she kicks her feet in the sand. “And if we don’t?” he says nervously. “If we don’t, we hope that the person we hurt, can forgive us.” she says with a faint smile, looking up at him. Clouds move. Dreams shift from hearts to hands. Sun shines bright, as the day nears its end. Bare feet walk through miles of sand. Waves pouring in the ocean, for eternity. And in the whisper of the wind they stand. On a beach somewhere. Anywhere. Everywhere. It doesn’t really matter. Heartbreak can happen wherever you land. “But I love you,” he says meaning it with all his might. “That doesn’t mean…

What To Do When You Feel Untalented (Or, My Ongoing Struggle)

Originally posted on You Should See My Scars:
So I arrived in New Zealand a week ago.  I just moved here from the USA and…. ugh…. well I got strep throat my second day here and it put my life on hold….YOU KNOW WHAT, lets not talk about that. The point is, I’m feeling better now and I have started job hunting and looking for places to live and you know what? …I think I got what i wished for…. and its making me feel like shit. Kiwis (What you call people from New Zealand for those out there who are confused)  are insanely cool and talented people. And it makes me feel like shit.  Like, if you have ever read my blog you know, I constantly feel like I’m lost and aimless in life and just suck at everything I do…. and this country isn’t going to make me feel any better. Take this for example:  I went to go visit a house to live in and meet the flatmates.  They were like, “oh,…

Have you outgrown your job?

Originally posted on MiddleMe:
If you open up this article, maybe you haven’t outgrown of your job but you’re not sure. Here’s where I come in and help you. There is a difference between whether you have outgrown your job or you are bored with your job. I have collated a list of questions for you to ask yourself if that is the problem: 1. More, more, more… Do you feel that you can do a lot more in your current state? A lot of times when we felt that we have mastered the job, we basically can finished the tasks with one eye open. There is not a lot of challenge to that. In that case, will it helps if you take on a new project in your company? Maybe you’re a business analyst and running through the numbers daily takes half of your day instead of the usual full day, pick on a project that differs from your field, like planning a department event or ask to coach someone who can cover you…

Mix ‘n Match

Originally posted on Charlotte Fox:
I’ve been wanting to share this outfit and had the perfect hat to complete it that I hauled with me all over Greece, Italy, & Paris! While I was sleeping one night in Paris someone actually broke in my room while I was asleep and stole my hat! (Ok, maybe no one stole it but I swear I had it and then it was gone!) The top is from Forever21. Skirt is from Fiore Boutique and I love the lace detail! Shoes are from Lulu’s and they are only $22!

Four Years and Counting…

Originally posted on CHASITY S. COOPER:
Why hello there, lovely one! Did you miss me?  I’ll be honest – after 17 days of not blogging, it was a little difficult to log-on and start writing. I’ve been so busy in the last few weeks (Operation #HireChasity is still very real) that I never really had time to prepare myself for the return. But better late than never, right? All week long, I’ve been asking myself a million questions, but certain ones have been on repeat like your favorite song: What do I talk about? Do I share what I did during the hiatus, or why I took it in the first place? Is anyone still interested in what I have to say? Where do I go from here?  And trust me, those were some the hardest questions I’ve had to ask myself in all my four years of blogging. But I had truthfully reached a point where I felt as though I was blogging just to blog. And when you start to do something just…

Heritage by Rebecca Walton

Originally posted on Words. . . I Need Words. . .:
Purchased: Kindle – $2.99 [Gifted by author in exchange for honest review] My Rating: 4 of 5 Stars Spoilers! What’s it all about: Elle isn’t your overage teenager, no she just happens to be a Princess, well an angel Princess. Princess Adabelle of Gracia. What does Elle do on her days off from being a Princess you ask? Well she hunts demons of course! That is until she meets Logan. He isn’t the typical demon and Elle can’t seem to get enough of him. With time running out and darkness closing in on her life, Elle will have to choose between the good and evil that resides in her soul. The Best Parts: I love the atmosphere of this novel. It really radiated with the young adult genre, but incorporated the fantasy aspect as well. Even those these kids were witches, a shapeshifter, and demons, you could still connect with them on a personal level. The plot line to this was pretty intense though. There was a lot…

Ten reasons to give up and go back to bed

Originally posted on Fear of the reaper:
1. Your cat decided that she would prefer to do her business in the shower than in the cat litter box and consequently you are forced to clean cat poop out of the bath before you have even properly woken up. 2. You drop the razor in the recently cleaned shower and although it doesn’t actually do you any damage it scares the bejebus out of you and shakes you up for the rest of the day wondering how long it would be before your cat discovered you naked in the shower and bleeding from inexplicable razor wounds to the knees and ankles. You would hope your cat would not have returned to do her business once again. 3. You tried to get dressed for work opting for the nice skirt suit you had laid out the night before but, after putting on not one, not two but three pairs of tights that either already had holes or quickly gained some, you concede defeat and wear trousers. 4.…