All posts filed under: courtship

Nice Guys Don’t Always Finish Last

Originally posted on Rosie Culture:
“Nice guys finish last.” Why do I always hear that? There is some sort of stereotype in the world that says girls like to be treated like dirt, so they intentionally find the guys that are going to hurt them and ignore all of those wonderful ‘nice guys’ who are pining for them. First of all: no one in the world wants to be treated poorly. Not girls, not guys – at least, not on purpose. A girl won’t ignore you, not date you, or friendzone you just because you’re nice.  There are other factors involved such as: she doesn’t think you’re attractive, you act too much like a friend, you don’t have any sort of challenge or spark to you.  This isn’t personal – we’re all attracted to different types of people and you’re just not that person’s type. Of course we want someone who is going to be nice to us.  But we don’t want someone who reminds us of our brother. Protective is great, but family-like is not.…

Overwhelmed…

Originally posted on Dating Documented:
Hello there lovelies, As you know, I have been seeing Mr. Sweet-Guitar-Player for about 2 months now. For a while I thought “Sure, I could date this guy seriously.” I think I might have been wrong. To be honest this  blog post is more for me than it is for you. I needed to see a list in front of me that documented the reasons I’m not feeling it anymore. It feels like we have run our course. We don’t do fun stuff anymore and we don’t have a ton to talk about. I don’t think we have as much in common as I thought we did. I’m just not attracted to him. The sex isn’t great. It isn’t even good. I don’t get butterflies, I don’t feel the constant need to be around him. It feels more like an obligation and I hate that.  Mr. Finally! I hate this because the last thing I want to do is hurt him because he truly is an incredible person, he’s just…

The Tools You Need To Get Over A Break Up

Originally posted on Rosie Culture:
I would define getting over a break up as being able to think of the relationship and not shudder, being able to date and trust someone again, and fully recovered from any of the left over pain that is related to the relationship and break up. Getting over a break up is not an easy thing to do. I once read that you can get over a break up in half the time of the duration of the relationship. Two years ago, I was in a four year relationship that ended. I thought that two years seemed like a crazy amount of time to have to wait to get over someone. But if you factor in all the bits and pieces that you need to make you whole again after someone shatters you, two years doesn’t seem like a long time at all. In fact, it might not even be long enough. These are the tools you need in order to get over that heartache: 1.Time Don’t jump into something…

This question is satan…

Originally posted on Dating Documented:
What’s your number? How many people have you slept with? What number am I? I was recently asked this question; a question that I am always unsure of how to answer and if/ should I ask it back. And as usual I panicked and did not know what to do. Why the fuck does this question matter so much? This question has so many issues in itself… First and foremost this question is SEXIST. More times than not women are judged on their number being “too high” and men are judged on their number being “not high enough”. Do we ever take into consideration all the other factors that may influence this question… Maybe the people that person has slept with were great in bed and helped them become an expert or the contrary, maybe the people they slept with in bed were terrible which has led to a person being unsure of what good sex is/ what to do/ what they themselves even like. What if the person has…

I Swiped Right When I Should Have Just Left | A

I am a 24 year old girl, who is struggling in the scary world of dating. I like man-buns, bearded beauties, vodka, and a good laugh. The most important thing you should know about me is that I don’t hold back on any details in my life. I am more blunt than I should be but I think that makes me fun, don’t you think? 😉