All posts filed under: personality

The Introvert’s Guide to Small Talk

Originally posted on 28 and Counting…:
In case you didn’t pick up on it, I am incredibly introverted. The thought of making small talk with strangers or folks that I don’t know very well fills me with dread. Small talk is an art and I’ve never been particularly interested in art. However, given the nature of my work (read: office culture), I am unfortunately in the situation of having to come up with things to say to random people all.the.time. Since I am working at a new job, the expectation that I will be friendly and bubbly to everyone all day is elevated. I am able to play the role, but as my fellow introverts can appreciate, it is completely exhausting. I have a quota of energy that I have to dedicate to people each day and depleting that precious resource on meaningless, superficial chats about the weather seems very counterproductive. To clarify, I don’t feel this way because I hate people. It’s because I hate forced idle chatter, which has never come naturally to me.…

Leaving Goggles

I’m leaving my job. That’s right folks; after over a year and a half of working full time in my kooky little call center, I am leaving to travel and follow my dreams of being paid to write. It’s exciting, it’s terrifying and there is a very real chance I will end up extremely poor and never be able to move out of my parents flat. It’s even more of a daunting prospect because this is the only thing I have done since graduating. I literally left university on the last day of June two years ago and started working here on the first day of July. I didn’t take a break or a summer off, this is literally all I know of the adult world. I always planned to leave; in fact I had no idea I would be here this long. The plan was to save enough money to go traveling before settling down into ‘adult’ life. Initially I naively thought that would take about six months. I kept postponing leaving partly because I didn’t have enough money to …

What Makes a Woman Confident?

Originally posted on Just another millennial living with her parents:
I feel as though this is a popular topic to discuss. The topic of confidence. I don’t speak to men, when it comes to matters of confidence – Ladies, I’m telling you – They have enough. Men, men, are so flipping confident these days. I tell you, I’ve never met a single male, anywhere, that hasn’t told me what to do. They tell me what I should be doing with my time. Of course, I shouldn’t be wasting so much time, worrying about my student loans – But I do. It’s all I can think about. I go hard, get what’s mine, take what’s mine. I work hard these days, and I must tell you, confess to you, ladies – My confidence is directly related to my money. These days, I feel a lot of pep in my step. I’ve bolstered up my student loan payments, and I feel good. Actually, I feel great. I’ve traded in my butter knife for a tomahawk, and I’m…

Maybe I’m A Selfish Bitch, But My Mom Still Loves Me

Originally posted on Est. 1989:
I wanted to share a story about something that happened in my family back in 2011. This is story about a time when I felt like I wasn’t considered enough but I should be. This was written as a stream of consciousness. So I hope it makes sense.? In December 2011 a bunch of my family got together at my grandparents’ house for Xmas. This is my mom’s side of the family. At the time I was one semester away from graduating college with my BA. Something that no one else in my family has ever done. I worked hard, albeit not as hard as I could have because I was actually on my 5th year instead of 4th, but I still felt like I was about to accomplish something that was actually worthy of praise for once.? Meanwhile, my 18 year old cousin had a (surprise) baby in October. This would be the first time my mom would be meeting this baby, as well as the first time for some…