All posts tagged: single

Why I’m Ready to Embrace Being Single

Originally posted on the hoe handbook:
In the 9th grade I broke up with the only real boyfriend I’ve ever had, he was heartbroken. Until he fell in love with another girl and subsequently cut me out of his life. So then I was heartbroken, I spent the next year and a half seriously messed up because for the first time I was really hit with insecurity. His new girlfriend was everything I could never be and he loved her for that (while at the same time hating me on her behalf). That’s when it started I think, my irrational fear of being a second choice and my downward spiral into single misery. Let me explain further. Around the 11th grade I fell in love with my best friend. He was everything to me and I knew that I could see us fitting well together. But I spent the next two years denying to everyone that I had feelings for him, because I figured that if he had wanted to be with me he would’ve…

What is 20 Something?

Originally posted on whatis20something:
I’ve been sitting in my room on Pinterst for the past two hours.  Perusing the common tags; ‘Women’s Fashion’, ‘Food’, and ‘DIY’.  But my most recent search is what sparked this blog, “Single Girl”.  Why do these two words mean so much to so many people?  Why do these words have such a negative connotation?  Why is being a “Single Girl” such an issue? The search produced an array of results.  There was The Single Girl 30 Day Challenge, which entails putting yourself out there more and allowing your friends to set you up on blind dates.  (Is that still a thing?)  Then you may scroll and find The Single Girl’s Summer Bucket List, which has an icon photo of a guy and a girl pushing another girl, who looks like a third wheel, on a tire into a lake.  (SO FUN).  And, eventually you will come across what I was looking for The Single Girl’s Guide to Grocery Shopping.  My issue with the search overall and even my eventual discovery of what…

5 Ways To Shock a Man 😈😇😈😇

Originally posted on Weird and Wonderful:
Hello, I am weird and wonderful. I think I know 5 ways to shock a guy, without: leaving your razor or hair on the side of the bath; leaving your washed knickers on a wash line in the bathroom; visiting his place for a while – taking him back home finding mouldy cups because you were out with him. These are good shocks! By the way – one of my closest friends have had the mouldy cup moment from spending too much time with her boyfriend. 1. Being too independent Let’s face it! If you can change a light bulb yourself… men feel you don’t need them. If you can put a shelf up by yourself, then you definitely as a woman do not feel you need a man. Change it, become the damsel in distress for a second and work as a team on things. Make a man feel wanted. 2. When women behave in a cat like manner towards one another It shocks them! This could be…

Harder than Stone

Originally posted on I swiped right when I should have just left:
When you first dive into the world of dating after being in a relationship, all your insecurities are visibly intact. The way you eat, the funny way you say words, and your lack of confidence. I’m personally more concerned with if there’s food in my teeth, if he’s questioning my eyebrow game, or if I reek of alcohol and regret. People pick up on insecurities on the first date – especially if it’s someone you’re very interested in. The first guy I was genuinely interested in from the online dating world was Pandora’s Box. Yes, I just nicknamed him Pandora’s Box. To my friends, I actually call him Pandora (insert guys name here) but like I said, for sake of humiliation, I’ll use the nickname my co-worker gave him. I was pulling an all-nighter for school when I got a message from him asking if I liked watching hockey and he commented on my music taste, which is excellent, if I must say. I liked…

Waiting for the Right One

Originally posted on leannadanelle:
The one thing I get so incredibly tired of hearing all the time is, your soo pretty how come your not married yet?? Its a question I can’t answer and don’t know why… Didn’t realize that only beautiful peopel got marrried lol… The fact is when people ask that question, it hurts me, and don’t really enjoy talking about why I’m still single or not married… Do they think I enjoy it?? Yes its’s fun being single sometimes, and having the freedom to do whatever I want… But I would love to have someone to talk to when I come home.. And I don’t enjoy the sad looks I get from people when I tell them, I’m single or married, thanks for making me feel like I’m dying or maybe not marrying material.. I didn’t realize me being single was such a horrible thing.. Or its a awkard silence cuz they dom’t know what to say lol… You could ask me about other things going on in my life… I have…

Why I Choose to Wait

Originally posted on Writing Wanderer:
I’m frequently asked “why don’t you have a boyfriend?” “Why don’t you just go on dates for fun?” “Why don’t you just go hang out with so and so from the store down the hall? You don’t have to marry him, just have fun.” But the thing is, I don’t want to date someone “just to have fun.” I’m not interested in that. I understand that one has to go on a few dates with different people in order to determine who and what is the best fit for their life, but that’s a little different than just going out for the sole purpose of being in male company. I’m not down for that. I’m also not going to say “maybe” or make any commitments to people I know for sure I do not see in my future. Even if they are cute or fun to hang out with. I don’t believe in actively looking for a relationship. I believe that when God is ready for me to find someone…