All posts tagged: courting

Beyond A Physical Relationship

Originally posted on Rosie Culture:
Terms such as “hooking up” and “friends with benefits” are pretty common these days. The hookup culture we live in means less relationships because our time is focused elsewhere. Whether we are career driven, education focused, dream chasing, or just plain selfish. There is a time in our life where relationships just aren’t possible so we avoid the emotional and lean towards the physical. But that time in your life where a relationship isn’t possible doesn’t last forever. There eventually is a time where you are emotionally and physically available. Some start to look for relationships at that time and some choose to veer from them still. There is a time in our lives where we are all ready to settle down, but instead of doing so some choose to stay in the “hooking up” or “friends with benefits” stage. Honestly, the physical thing just gets tiring. As if dating wasn’t hard enough, now you’re not sure if someone just wants to have fun or wants something serious. It’s like you…

OkCupid – The Deep End

Originally posted on Date By Number:
OkCupid analyzes its users’ data and publishes insights in The Deep End. Their recent article takes a look at the changes from 2005 to 2015, with some surprising results, staring with this question: It’s a dramatic drop, but my first reaction was that this could be a reflection of online dating becoming more common, rather than a major shift in sexual behavior. Maybe in 2005, online dating wasn’t as mainstream and OkCupid users tended to be more ‘adventurous’. Now that online dating is more common, the 2015 OkCupid users might include more conservative daters than it did before.  I thought my theory was pretty plausible, until I reached the following question: Any guesses as to why the two questions are trending in the opposite direction? You can find the whole article here. —- For more on OkCupid, see also: Hall of OkStupid #3 at The Lonely Tribalist

My Type of Romance

As it was Valentines Day recently I have decided to write about relationships and my own experience with the crazy roller coaster world of love. This is a romantic story straight out of (certain) types of movies, TV shows and books, but trust me when I say it is not a fairy tale. When I was 18, I became involved with a man. This man seemed like he was straight out of a story. He was eight years my senior, which made him just the right age in my mind, and he reminded me of many of the characters I had learned to love over the years. But this was no fairy tale story. Not a romcom either. No. This man reflected the kind of relationships I was fascinated with at the time. When I was younger, I wasn’t interested in ‘normal’ on screen romances and soppy rom coms. I didn’t want a knight in shining armor, un-complicated, sweet, and ‘normal’ guy.  When I was younger, I was obsessed with phantom of the Opera. With the angst page of …

Ralph gave me his last Rolo – 2nd June 1998

Originally posted on If Destroyed Still True:
Tuesday 2ndRalph still likes me anyway. You know off the advert when it says, “Do you love someone enough to give them your last Rolo?” Well, Ralph gave me his last Rolo after school. He came up to me and said, “There’s my last Rolo, just for you.” I thought that was really sweet and I couldn’t stop smiling for ages. People must have thought I was a right nutter, grinning away to myself like that! I saved the packet. Sad, I know. → BYE!

The Dreaded Post of Jer : Part 1

Originally posted on I swiped right when I should have just left:
I’ve been anxious to write my next post but I haven’t had the time to write it.  Funny coincidence, I received a call from Pandora’s Box saturday night after I was stumbling home from the bar. He asked me to come over (at 2:30am) and “watch Netflix”. Okay whoever doesn’t know that “watching Netflix” usually ends with fucking is naive as shit. Anyways, I declined because um no and I passed out on my couch. I woke up to a whiskey hangover and frantically checked my phone to see the damage I caused. Not too much damage was done. As long as I don’t contact Uncle J, everything is good. And this is what this post is going to be about – Uncle J. I know what you’re thinking. Why the fuck is she calling one of her lovers Uncle J? I get that it’s kind of super fucking weird but heres my reasoning. He has a name that is of an old…

Why I Choose to Wait

Originally posted on Writing Wanderer:
I’m frequently asked “why don’t you have a boyfriend?” “Why don’t you just go on dates for fun?” “Why don’t you just go hang out with so and so from the store down the hall? You don’t have to marry him, just have fun.” But the thing is, I don’t want to date someone “just to have fun.” I’m not interested in that. I understand that one has to go on a few dates with different people in order to determine who and what is the best fit for their life, but that’s a little different than just going out for the sole purpose of being in male company. I’m not down for that. I’m also not going to say “maybe” or make any commitments to people I know for sure I do not see in my future. Even if they are cute or fun to hang out with. I don’t believe in actively looking for a relationship. I believe that when God is ready for me to find someone…