All posts tagged: behavior

Things to Consider Pre-Marriage

I recently received some unsolicited, though much appreciated, advice from a few elders about relationships. Though I am quite a few years away from marriage, they had a few tips on things to do before considering marriage. I would be selfish if I didn’t share. 1. Talk about the life you desire If nothing else, discuss marriage and children. If your significant other doesn’t want either and you do, you can stop right here. 2. Take note to their behavior …especially the little things. Don’t overlook the big things (i.e. arguments) either. Just pay attention to everything. As the saying goes, when people show you who they are, believe them. 3. Travel together Travel can be stressful. Long car rides, enclosed spaces, and plans gone wrong can bring out the worst in people. Going on a trip is a great way to see how well your partner handles you in high stress situations. 4. Live together This one is debatable. Some studies show that couples that live together before marriage tend to have a higher divorce rate. I don’t know …

Body Language

Originally posted on MiddleMe:
Building on the article yesterday, I felt I will need to touch on a age-old topic – body language. Although we have studied what body language you used will affect the impression you project to others, consciously you are unable to control your movements unless you watch every movement, every smile, wherever you place your hands. More often than not, whenever I attended body language lessons (sponsored by my previous companies), I find it useful to me to measure someone, perhaps a customer whether he is buying or just browsing; or my boss whether it is a good time to approach him to ask for a pay raise. What I don’t think is useful is to watch my movements. What you learn to observe, others can use the same methods to observe you. Hence to counter-effect this, there is a fool-proof ways that works for me. I always think every possible positive things and drive the negative thoughts away before each meeting. I find out what are the agendas and try…