All posts tagged: 20s

I Don’t Want a Boyfriend: And Other Things I Shouldn’t Have to Explain

I’m in my early twenties, fairly fresh out of college, and in the early stages of my career. Those alone are great reasons to not want a boyfriend. I have a 60 hour a week job, a side hustle, and various side projects. Relationships can be a part time job. Do I sound like I need another job? Right now, why would I want a boyfriend? Most of the men I’ve met, that are in my age range still behave like teenage boys. I’m a grown woman with an “old soul.” If that’s what I have to choose from… I don’t want a boyfriend. I’m not a lesbian. I’m not asexual. I haven’t sworn off of men. However, at the moment, I do not want a boyfriend. ________________________ Aren’t you worried about when you’ll get married or have kids? No, I’m in my early twenties, not approaching menopause. What about other things, like buying a house? Why doesn’t your generation buy homes? It’s not from lack of desire. It’s from lack of money. You see, the way …

The College Years: Navigating Frat Parties, Relationships, and Studies

Originally posted on Nina Navigating Life :
“College will be the best four years of your life.” – Everyone Not to sound like everyone else, but college actually was the best four years of my life. High school was absolutely awful for me, as I’m sure many of you can relate to. I didn’t have that many friends, and the friends I did have were the root of many tears, drama, and anxiety. So when I moved into my freshman year dorm with my roommate and two suitemates who had no idea who I was, I was overjoyed. For some reason, the thought of not knowing anyone was actually comforting to me. Sure, it was scary at times, but I was so excited to have a clean slate. I always say that my freshman year was the most fun year of my life, but I would never want to do it again. And I can explain that statement to you in two words: FRAT PARTIES. Okay, that’s a bit of an exaggeration. There were plenty of other fun things about that year,…

Catfish Style

In the past two weeks, I’ve had at least two of my friends mention online dating. Either they were encouraged to do it by someone else or they knew people who were already 40 profiles deep into a Catfish episode. Now, I don’t mean to diss anyone who might have found love in a hopeless place, but honestly, what has our generation come to? When people can only meet through virtual reality and text messaging apps, you have to ask the question. I realize that times are changing and the world is growing even more technologically based. Almost everything we do and see is electronic, but what happened to good old fashion face-to-face communication? Call me ole skool, but I don’t think that you can actually ever really know a person until you spend quality time with them…in person. See this is the root of the problem. You talk to a guy/girl for months online and you fall for the idea of the person they have created – the person they want you to believe …

This is Why I Rarely Argue With People

Originally posted on F R E E D O M:
I’d lost my voice that day at work, long before my coworker announced to me candidly. “You look like death!!” He said it in a way that made me zip straight to the nearest reflective surface so I can see myself. After which, I wondered that if he had a bucket of holy water, would he dump it on me? Jokes aside, I was feeling the effects of the weather, compounded by that flu I seemed to have picked up in Seattle, and million other things I had in my mind. By the time I could go, I was more or less brain dead. I couldn’t physically deal with anything anymore. It’d all had to stop. So I got on the train, took the train to my stop home, except then there was a guy blocking the exit. So I said quietly in all the voice I had left, ‘excuse me’ as the train stopped so I can get off. But then I guess he…

On Turning 25

Originally posted on Blu Chicken Ninja So I turned 25 this month which is kind of terrifying. Because I have to admit that I’m a proper adult now, I’m not just some teenager pretending to be a grown-up. But the problem is that even though I am technically considered a “responsible adult”, I don’t feel like one. I’ve always thought of adults as people with responsibilities like jobs and houses and cars. And I don’t have any of those things. I mean I could try and use the CFS as an excuse. But I’ve only had that for just under 2 years. I’ve spent most of my 20s… Read more…

Reasons Why Fall is the Best Season

Originally posted on Am I Thirty Yet:
I try my hardest not to complain about the summer. I spend the majority of the winter bitching about it being too cold. I feel like I can really only have one season I’m allowed to hate or else it’s just me being miserable 50% of the time. Summer is long and hot but it’s the lesser of two evils when compared to winter. But I’d rather do without summer as well. It’s the ending of August. Fall is right around the corner and it cannot come soon enough. Fall is the greatest season by far. If you don’t agree with me, then you’re wrong. This is one of those rare cases when opinions are also facts. My girl Wendi, over at This, That and the Other Thang knows what’s up. She recently went over all the ways that fall is infinitely better than summer and I couldn’t agree with her more. Here are 25 of my own reasons why fall is the best of the best. 1.…

T w e n t y N i n e

Originally posted on dionna camille:
As the smoke clears on an amazing birthday weekend (thanks to my fiancé), I took the time reflect on what this 29th year of life will be. What I want out of it and what I plan to put into it. My list is ever-changing, but I wanted to put some of these things into the atmosphere to get the ball rolling. 29.1 Pass my road test (get my driver’s license) While I revel in the fact that people respond to this knowledge with “No license? You’re such a New Yorker”…I’m an adult and I need to drive. I have to reclaim that tiny bit of lost independent from being on someone else’s schedule or stuck in place because “my ride” isn’t ready. I will practice my parallel parking and pass my road test. 29.2 Find and commit to a weight loss regime I’ll spare you the sob story (because there isn’t one). I used to be smaller and I want to be smaller again. Plus, I’m getting married next year…

How to Save Yourself Money on Your Overseas Phone Bill

Originally posted on F R E E D O M:
Once upon a time, I had a near $400 phone bill that I ended up paying in full. True story. It was the first time I’d gone to the Netherlands in 2013. I didn’t exactly ‘plan’ to use my cellphone. After all, coming from North America, I so conveniently assumed that Europe would be dotted with many wi-fi hotspots like North America. The truth is, not so much – if I recall correctly, the hostel I was staying at had spotty wi-fi and this was before the time I’d figured out how to download maps on Google Maps. So I literally had to run everything on roaming data (big opps!) lest I got lost somewhere. And even with my data on, I roamed into some highly questionable alleyways in Amsterdam. Oh yes, misadventures. Now fast forward 2015, I’m armed with more knowledge than before and I’m smart enough to research ahead of time. 1. Pre-purchase roaming data plan: It’s aways good to check with your…