Adulthood, adulting, Apps, blogger, Friends, friendship, friendships, G.U.M Writer, gen y, generation y, millennials, New, relatable, Relationships, Uncategorized, websites and apps
Comments 3

Making Friends in the Real World

jarlsberg-9

via alexanderradsby.com

California is the perfect place for my career to prosper. I moved out here one month after graduation and landed a pretty sweet job. It’s been such a wonderful experience. The weather is lovely. I live in an area that reminds me of my home state. My work environment is pretty ideal.

tumblr_m2nc4yvkbi1r973q3o1_500
via http://bit.ly/1Sz5CNi

The downside? Making friends wasn’t easy. When you’re not a social butterfly (or a “typical” clubbing 20something) it can be difficult. For those of us that fall under this “atypical” category, we socially thrive in places that we frequent.

In our younger days this would’ve been classroom settings and extracurricular activities. Post-graduation it’s typically at the job. This is especially true for me given that a normal work week is 60-65 hours.

I’m not fond of mixing business with personal. If I choose to hang out with a co-worker we have to have a strong connection at work. I’m very particular. If things don’t go well we still have to work together (insert hostile work environments and other harassment issues); so it’s important to choose wisely.

tumblr_m6eophcau41r9uy89o1_250
via http://bit.ly/20CvZoe

My lack of desire to leave home (other than running errands) and “irrational fear” of wasting my time meeting people I won’t like, made me a bit of a lost cause. Luckily I managed to befriend co-workers that are in different departments and a few that work in the same vicinity for different companies. They understand my long work hours and we even squeeze in time to meet up during the work day.

 

The question remains: If making friends at work isn’t an option, how do you make friends?

If you’re willing to go out and meet people you can join a pick-up team on Meetup. There are also a few friend-finding apps that have received pretty good reviews. The main three seem to be WiithNearify, and LykeMe.

friends-girls-happy-photograph-photography-wow-favim-com-83580
via http://favim.com/image/83580/

I haven’t built up the courage to try them. Perhaps these apps will work for you. If you’ve tried them before I’d love to hear about your experience. Seriously, help your fellow bloggers out. What’s your method?

 

3 Comments

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s